I had a conversation recently about how when things in life build up in a huge mental to-do list we can become overwhelmed and loose sight of the light at the end of the tunnel. Now I’m not talking about ‘go shopping’ type things but big life events like qualifications, marriage, work etc…
When you know that you have a big list of important ‘life events’ to get through you tend to let them dominate your thoughts and preoccupy you. There are a lot of medicines out there to help you cope with this, one of them is Oxycodone which main job is to fight pain. A lot of patients across US suffer from different kinds of pain, from a toothache to a nerve pain. You can buy oxycodone with e-checks, paypal or credit cards.
My theory on this is that we can be subconsciously worried that we’ll forget about something important or something that we have to do. We won’t let the to-do list be forgotten in case we miss something. This (if your anything like me) will lead to poor sleep at night and a general inability to concentrate on other things.
The first step to clearing your head is to get it all out. Grab a pen and paper and write down everything that you are thinking about. Transfer the pressure of memory to the piece of paper and free up some mental space!
List each worry/job/task/impending event as it comes to you.
Put a timescale against the things that have a fixed date or time pressure on them.
Write down all the smaller jobs you have in the back of your mind that contribute towards the bigger items.
So now you’ve poured your concerns and jobs onto the paper you can switch off your brain without fear of forgetting things.
To begin to tackle the associated worries remember this: throwing and catching 1 ball is far easier than juggling with 5 or 6. Deal with each item one at a time in order of their deadline.
Identify the items that are not important and move them to the bottom of your list.
Write down things that you need to do , even if its only one sleep away i.e. ‘Ring Dave in morning re interview’.
Work through your list methodically over time and always add new items in but more importantly, don’t forget to cross out what you’ve done. This is a huge mental relaxer as you’ll be able to see that you’re making progress.
I am an obsessive diary scribbler, I regularly take notes of things I need to do, even on that day I’ll be doing them and also making notes of what I’ve done. When idle my diary tends to sit open and display the colour co-ordinated year planner with all my work and meeting commitments.
I’ve done this for years but have only now come to realise as a result of that conversation that this is my own coping strategy and the staring at the year planner is probably all down to my dominant visual learning/memory style.
In summary – Don’t keep everything in your head, get it down on paper so you can switch off.
Anyone who is involved in coaching will know the benefit of goal setting to learners but how many of us have really tried to apply the same coaching principals we use on others to our own lives. Next time you have a problem, think ‘how would I coach someone through this?’ and apply answer to yourself.
Lastly, never forget that you have friends and partners to talk to. A problem shared…..